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Here is the more important list… the Allowed Foods… take a look and try not to drool!

Mindful Lifestyle - Devoted to Healing & Being

I chose the above picture for a reason… Yes, you can eat on a migraine friendly diet.  There isn’t anything on this plate that you can’t eat.

Here is the list of allowed foods:  allowed foods Sheet1

It’s not quite as plentiful as the foods to avoid but the nice thing is that almost all spices are on the list.  When you aren’t using tenderizer or marinade, spices come in very handy!

I had forgotten that honeydew and cantaloupe were on the list.  I bought some on my last trip to Whole Foods.  I was trying to have some in the mornings with my eggs.  I felt pretty inflamed today — my face can get rosy if I have too much going on.  I couldn’t figure out why.  The melon didn’t help.

But that’s okay.  I can have watermelon and actually it was the ripest of the three.

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Check out the attachment … you can keep this on your ipad, send it to family you are going to visit, bring it to the store, etc… I hope it helps!

Mindful Lifestyle - Devoted to Healing & Being

(Things to Avoid List Below)

Things are so much easier to do when you are doing them out of love… or for someone you love.

I guess I must have loved myself enough to do all this research…. but I am sharing it because someone I love has pain issues and I don’t ever want someone to feel un-empowered.

We might be able to take away pain, but we can take away suffering.

My neurologist only did so much… well, he took me off of 7 different medications that could have killed me. . . that’s a lot. He told me dead on though that if I thought foods were a trigger, I needed to solve that on my own.

There were so many things that the pain psychologist, pain specialist, biofeedback technician, primary doctor, etc didn’t do and well, all I can say is I am grateful to Google…

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Who knew we would ever need a day like Sweetest Day or Ground Hog Day to be kind to one another?  No, this is something more!!!!

Check out this resource on lovingkindness for youth from the Foundation for the Preservation of the Mahayana Tradition.

http://www.lkpy.org/html/bekindday.html

And check out the attached resource for talking about and working with kindness in schools.  Here.

With all the gun violence in schools, increased need to work and live together in empathetic ways, I think these tools are awesome.

When you have an extended family and a community, hopefully some of these things are taught.

But let’s face it, no matter what your spiritual path, isn’t it important that we teach kids about empathy, compassion, non-violence, and being and living together?

We might fight about sex education in schools, if condoms should be sold on college campus, but are do we really need to fight about teaching our youth to be kinder, more creative, more passionate and impassioned adults?

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Ive Been There A Discussion With a Young Professional 04/03 by Jennifer R Stevens MA CT | Blog Talk Radio.

I am thrilled after several years away to be working with Liz Hendrickson to be spending 30 minutes with her on Blog Talk Radio and getting the truth about kids, teens, and grief out there.

Tune in and call in!

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Here is a sneak peek of what’s to come….

Next week we will be focusing on Grieving Children and Teens.  We will start off with a Blog Talk Radio Show, featuring an up and coming young adult professional, Elizabeth Hendrickson, who is passionate for helping kids and teens while grieving.

More info to come. . . but for now, check this out…

Excerpt from Alan Wolfelt’s book, Healing A Teen’s Grieving Heart:  100 Practical Ideas for Families, Friends, and Caregivers

“Give the teen permission to find comfort in “linking objects.”

  • “Linking objects” are simply items that belonged to the person who died in which the teen takes comfort.  They offer him a physical “link” to the person who died.
  • You may want to give the teen a special linking object — maybe something she can wear like an article of clothing or a piece of jewelry
  • Other appropriate linking objects for teens include books, knickknacks, artwork, sports gear, games, CDs or cassettes or LPs
  • The teen’s natural defiance may make her say she doesn’t want any of this “junk”.  If that’s her attitude, fine; dont’ push.  But do box something up for a time in the future when she may find the item very meaningful.”

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“Things simply happen—we do our rituals, we travel about, we bear children, live among them, and die. We can’t change these facts, but if we cultivate awareness that everyone, everywhere has similar experiences of life and death, it can take the urgency out of our responses, opening a space for equanimity to arise.”

~~Manjusura, “The View From Above”

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“Your relationships would also benefit great from a commitment to never part in anger.  If the other person in the relationship is willing, make a commitment to one another that if there is a problem, a moment of anger, you will stay and work it through until you can part in love.  We have seen over the years that if the final interaction with a loved one was of anger, the grieving process can be much more complicated.”

~~John E. Welshons, Awakening from Grief:  Finding the Way Back to Joy

 

One of the harder things for the bereft to deal with is things that didn’t get said.  Sometimes, an even tougher thing to reconcile with is the things that did get said.

I like John’s suggestion that if both partners (romantic, familial, etc) are willing to pledge to work on never parting in anger, a relationship can be stronger and the grief less complicated.

People may talk about kids having magical thinking… “I got made at my sister and told her I wished she was dead” and then at some point the sister dies and the child believes that they are the cause for the disease, accident, etc.

But adults do something similar… they may have had a relationship with someone for decades, a loving relationship where the two people really cared for and about each other, and there are harsh words or a rift of some sort and one of the people becomes very sick or dies.  We tend to focus on that rift rather than all of the thousands of ways we showed that we cared.

Think about the adult child who has to put their aging parent in a nursing home because of ill-health, dementia, etc.  The adult child might have promised that parent that day would never come and now it’s here.  Or the parent went to live at the home and died…

In our grief, we will not think about all the doctor’s appointments we took that person on.

Or the trips to the store to get their favorite ice cream at 10 pm.

Or the holidays where we always made sure they had their favorite dish.

The flowers that they bought for no reason except that they loved the person.

But all that gets over looked because that one day when you had three hours of sleep you said to yourself, “When will this end.”

Or you fought about something minor and didn’t get the chance to make things right with each other.

Grief gives us the opportunity, more than many other experiences to do two things:  to learn compassion and to learn forgiveness…. both of these in regards to ourselves and in regards to others.

If you need to walk away and cool off, do it… but don’t let a lot of time go by without at least saying, I’m angry and I love you.

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