Archive for March 9th, 2012

Lewis Richmond is a great teacher. Thanks for posting this!

Evolutionary_Mystic Post

I have talked in recent posts about the Buddhist teachings on self and soul, and most recently about Buddhist meditators’ tendency to “spiritual bypassing,” i.e. moving past the messy and often painful work of wounds, selfish tendencies, traumas, life problems and developmental needs to try to reach an imagined state of transcendence where all of that can be left behind.

A lot of that terrain can be summarized by the pop phrase “getting rid of the ego,” which many seem to equate with the goal of spiritual practice. This phrase, which has over 15 million Google hits, implies two things: first, that there is something intrinsically wrong with the ego, and second, that once gotten rid of, everything will be better.

“Ego” originally was a term from Freudian psychoanalysis, or rather an English translation of Freud’s original term Ich, which simply means “I” in German. I have come to believe…

View original post 682 more words

Read Full Post »

Great Post!

Read Full Post »

Thanks for sharing this with us!

Evolutionary_Mystic Post

From the beginning of my meditation practice in 1971, I was very moved by a sense of the Buddha as an integrated being. Most of us can easily experience our lives as somehow fragmented, split apart. We might feel perfectly filled with complete loving kindness, strongly in touch with the radiant essence of our being when we’re alone, but as soon as we’re with people, it’s very difficult. Or we might feel fine when we’re with other people, but feel terrified when we are alone. We might feel one way at work, a different way in the context of our families.

Our lives can easily be experienced as split up into these little bundles, whereas for a being like the Buddha, it is seamless. There are no parts, there’s no division, there’s no fragmentation. His life is of one piece with threads of wisdom and compassion guiding his actions whether…

View original post 991 more words

Read Full Post »

Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche

“When you begin to feel the magic of the present moment,

the mind learns how to be complete.

That is what we call happiness.”

~~ Sakyong Mipham

Read Full Post »

When I was a kid, there was a program on tv that had a segment, “Intro to the opposite sketches” or something like that.  During this segment, everything they said and did was the opposite of what we know to be true.

Sometimes I am reminded of this segment when I hear crazy things people say or believe about grief.

Take these for instance:

Don’t take it so hard

It only makes a bereaved person feel worse to hear,  Be strong: don’t take it so hard.  This sounds as though the loss is insignificant and deprives the person of the natural emotions of grief.  Taking an honest attitude of I know this is tough  to go through, gives the bereaved a chance to express and thus recover from grief.

The Diversionary Tactic

Many people calling on the bereaved purposely veer away from the subject of death and talk about football, fishing, the weather – anything but the reason for their call or visit.  This attempt to camouflage death ignores the task of the mourner – facing the fact of death and going on from there.  It would be far better to sit silently and say nothing than to make obvious attempts to distract.  The grieving person can see through efforts to divert and reality hits all the harder when the diversion is absent.

Lets not talk about it

Well-meaning people often use this method of not mentioning the deceased, but the implication is the subject is too terrible to discuss politely.  It is more helpful to evoke memories of the deceased in the fullness of life and to recreate a living picture to replace the picture of death.

REALLY????  How crazy are we?

Not only do we have so little compassion for ourselves in the time of great sorrow and pain but we are almost heartless in our endeavors to spare people pain that we create more pain and suffering.

Be there for the person who is ill or grieving.

Say the person’s name who died.

Remember days that are special to them.

Share memories with the grieving.

Make memories with those who are ill.

Let them know that you have two shoulders they can lean on, supporting them on their good and bad days.

Read Full Post »