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People are like stained-glass windows. They sp...

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within. ~ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (Photo credit: Olga Oslina)

A friend of mine posted this on his Facebook wall the other night… I appreciated that someone quoted EKR and that it was such a power quote at that!

I never thought that I would “sell out” for a comfortable life.  LOL.  Well, I might have sold out, but I don’t know how comfortable it is.

I’m working on a post about aging and I realize that I have come to a certain age in my life where I am acknowledging bad choices that brought me important lessons.  I’m realizing that I’ve been spending more time envying my younger friends and how they have the world ahead of them rather than appreciating the world I have right now.

It feels like a lot of things are dying off. . . a lot of things are stagnant. . . and a lot of things have felt futile.

We only have one chance, right?  I know that. . . but I have not been living it for the past few years.  I could beat myself up and then I realize that compassion starts with oneself. . . I can’t take away a decade of constant pain but I can learn from fellow bloggers like William and Marty who are living and thriving and making a difference in our world.

I might not be where I am, but being a prostitute to life, as EKR suggests, in a state of mind and I am afraid that I am not interested in squelching any more of my existence on small ideas, actions, and limitations.

Be here, now. . . because there is NOTHING else!

Peace, Jen

“It is very important that you only do what you love to do.

You may be poor, you may go hungry, you may lose your car,

you may have to move into a shabby place to live, but you will totally live.

And at the end of your days you will bless your life because you

have done what you came here to do. Otherwise, you will live

your life as a prostitute, you will do things only for a reason,

to please other people, and you will never have lived.

And you will not have a pleasant death.”
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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Peace of Mind.



Find a place where people live, and have lived, a self-sufficient, fully contented life with general peace of mind; put a road into that place – because, of course, you know best – and watch what happens to the self-sufficiency, contentment and general peace of mind.

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Thanks Marty… needed this tonight!

C PTSD - A Way Out

I do this for one thing, to spark PTSD sufferers to take daily action!


In the past, my focus was on the breathing track and the healing model.


Now, I would give all my money, for the words to inspire you to take action.


Healing happens on its own with a dedicated daily routine.


Every great athlete has a crystal clear focus and a daily routine.



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Mindful Lifestyle - Devoted to Healing & Being

You know… I really hate health food some times!

People just assume that if it is good for one, it’s good for all.

And the FDA does a horrible job at keeping up with the need to label allergens.

As much as EVERYONE is on the flax is the perfect food bandwagon, you have to be careful what you eat.

Twice I have gotten very sick by eating/ingesting healthy things.

The first time was when I took a natural decongestant when I lived in TN.  It had bee pollen in it and I blew out an ear drum a few weeks before moving away to grad school.

The other time was, at the instance of a then-boyfriend who was a health food freak, when I started taking flax-seed oil supplements and eating bread made from flax-seed.  He insisted that it was a “bad” batch of flax until I found a…

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“Tibetan Buddhists say that we have all been one another’s mother in a previous lifetime.  Imagining every being as your mother, practice offering love equally to all whom you encounter, including strangers, creatures, and even those who have hurt you.  This practice isn’t always easy for some of us Westerners, who may have conflicted relationships with our mothers.  But I can imagine a being who has given me and others life, protection, nourishment, and kindness.  When I’ve giving care to a dying person, I try both to give and receive kindness as if I were the dying one’s mother and to see the dying one as my mother, saying silently to myself, “Now it is time for me to repay the great kindness of all motherly beings.”

~~ Roshi Joan Halifax, Being With Dying

Can you image going to war if your “enemy” had the face of your mother?

Can you imagine what would have happened on the night that Zimmerman and Martin came face to face if they saw each other’s mothers in one another rather than “the other”?

What if we thought about feeding our mothers when we were going to the store?  Would we buy genetically modified food?  Would we by toxins?

Could we be mindful enough to think about using our signal or not texting in the car if we thought that it might harm our mother?

I love how Roshi frames her work with the dying here.  I’ve often thought that I have no need for my own children when there are so many people in the world that need someone to love them, teach them, spend time listening to them. . .

I don’t think there has been a day that has gone by in three years, since I started my present job (not working with dying people) where I have thought to myself… if one of my parents needed to be in an institution, would I be okay with them here?  Would I want staff or their psychologist to treat them this way. . .

I truly think that if we thought about those we serve as just that… people who we are honored to serve.. maybe not a mother but a father, a loved one, a child, a beloved auntie. . .  that isn’t to say that we don’t have problems in our families.  But can we see the person before us through the lens of them being an honored person?

As a therapist, the next time you have someone walk in your office who has a diagnosis of “addiction” or of “borderline personality”… can you see them as a baby buddha?

Can you see the crying child at the store as someone’s beloved?

I really honor this practice and can think of all the people I meet daily… in real life or in my mind with whom I do not treat with the reverence of a mother or a beloved and this reminds me of all the people in my life who have been teachers, mentors, great beings whom I have loved dearly… and whom have loved me when I was far from acting as if I were someone’s beloved.

Yet, would I not want to be seen from the heart, in this light?

I think in order to be seen, we have to open our own hearts and see the world this way… when we do, maybe, just maybe the whole world we see how interconnected and fragile the bonds between us are.

Today is my own mother’s birthday and I write this post with the greatest love and respect to the woman who has most shown me to love others no matter what…. to give and to honor others.

I love you mom and honor every cell, every gesture, and every moment that is ours in our mother-daughter bond.

I bow to you, a buddha being….


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Living with Purpose

But where was it ever promised us that life would be simple,

free from pain and doubt?

The purpose of life is not simply to be contented.

The purpose of life is to have it make a difference

that we lived at all, to matter to someone.

~~Albert Murphy


I remember seeing this for the first time when I was in college and absolutely loving it!  Every dorm room I ever had had a copy of this poem taped to the wall, usually by a mirror or a door to remind me of this very vital lesson.

I share it now with you.

Metta, ~~~Jennifer

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I always enjoy this blog!

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One of my favorite authors…

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Just downloaded this last night… am looking forward to what he has to say.. he’s also speaking at the international symposia for contemplative studies

Sharing this article since it’s clear the benefit of mindfulness practice is starting to strike people of all sorts. It’s something that can be done regardless of religious belief. Now we have a US Congressman talking about its potential benefits for everyone.

From the Guardian by Ed Halliwell: 

Mindfulness: the altered state of America

“A quiet revolution is happening in America.” So says Tim Ryan, Ohio congressman and author of A Mindful Nation, which documents the spread of mindfulness meditation across the US, and argues for its widespread adoption as a way to favourably affect the country’s healthcare system, economy, schools and military.

Just published, the book is significant not so much for what’s being said – evidence for the benefits of mindfulness has been piling up in scientific journals over recent years – but for who’s saying it and how: an elected politician in Washington passionately advocating meditation as a…

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Your idea!


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