Posts Tagged ‘Letting Go’

English: At the Omega Institute, May 2007.

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Here is a good reminder of how not to get hooked at the holiday and to be mindful of your practice.

Want to learn more about shenpa and getting hooked, check out Pema Chodron. . . and yes, there will be something about shenpa and end-of-life care soon…. so many topics to write on and so little time to write it all up.

My best advice for the holidays…. keep both feet firmly on the floor and know you are rooted into the solidness of the earth.  stand up straight with your shoulders back so that your heart can be open…. remember to breathe because nothing else matters if you aren’t breathing.

Peace to all!

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“If we can just let go and trust that things will work out they way they’re supposed to,

without trying to control the outcome, then we can begin to enjoy the moment more fully.

The joy of the freedom it brings becomes more pleasurable than the experience itself.”
~~   Goldie Hawn

There’s letting go and there’s letting go  . . .

I remember being at an Association for Grief Education and Counseling conference and listening to Robert Neimeyer talking about grieving.  This was several years ago but his words have stayed with me, especially when I talk to grieving parents.

Bob said something like, “No mother comes into therapy and says, ‘Tell me how to let go of my child that died” and yet that’s what grief theory has been telling us forever.

I have to say, I knew some of Bob’s work before this, but with these words, I knew that we needed to do something amazingly different in the field of grief and in end-of-life care.

One of the things that is most important is to be a compassionate presence to our clients, to hold a space for them to feel safe to share their stories.  And then we need to listen to them and try not to cast a lot of notions onto them.

The idea of letting go can be traced back to an article from Freud on melancholy, not on grief.  And it was written during a time when they talked about removing libidinal energy from the deceased to something or someone new.  But many people know that, well, this just isn’t reality.

But I said that there was letting go and letting go. . .  letting go in the second sense is about compassion.

(Tomorrow I will post what I mean by letting go and what we can help support the bereft. . . )

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